I'm not being radical when I kiss you, I don't love you to make a point

[debs]

My song choice tonight is in honor of National Coming Out Day (stateside, I think the Brits get it tomorrow). I've only experienced one true coming out moment in my life--the high school friend I mentioned in an earlier post--everyone else in my life who is gay always just...was. In terms of my uncle, some of the cousins, and my sister, there was never a big announcement, it was just understood. Part of this stemmed, I think, from location as both of my parents were born and raised in the midwest. I don't think my uncle has ever taken his partner of 25+ years back to Iowa. Otherwise, with classmates and friends and such it was something felt instinctively or mentioned in an off-hand way--"Did you hear that Jay came out?"--that sort of thing.

I've had fantasies about coming out as bisexual to my office because most of the people I work with need a swift kick in the balls when it comes to talking about/dealing with non-heteros. What's stopping me is that it feels a bit dishonest; while I find both men and women sexually attractive and have harbored crushes on both sexes, I hesitate to label myself concretely. I think sexuality and affection are nebulous and everyone has their own level of ambiguity, or sway, if you will. Wouldn't it be nice if someday in the future we could just stop obsessing about these labels and just let love be love?

Anyway, the song I chose for tonight is the Catie Curtis' "Radical." This particular version comes from the Kink Live Five CD. I think Kink FM stopped making these live discs, which is a damn shame because they were really something else.

"Radical" by Catie Curtis
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Comments

[dissonant-dream.livejournal.com]

I already have that one! But I applaud the song choice. :)

And, um, this?

I think sexuality and affection are nebulous and everyone has their own level of ambiguity, or sway, if you will. Wouldn't it be nice if someday in the future we could just stop obsessing about these labels and just let love be love?


YES. *sigh*

[shoelacedreamer.livejournal.com]

Inside my head I call it "the lesbian song" so it seemed appropriate. :P

Don't label us, we're not food! ♥

[soar38.livejournal.com]

It kind of sounds horrible, but I think I would hate for you to speak openly about bisexuality at work because the people there just don't sound like the kind of people who wouldn't make the working place even more uncomfortable for you than it already is. :-( *hugs*

[sifaka.livejournal.com]

I don't like labeling either, but I'm on the fence whether http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pansexuality sounds about right or kinda pretentious. Although "I'm on the fence" kinda works too...

[tillie1202.livejournal.com]

I hate society's obsessive need to label everything. One of my friends in college said to me something along the lines of, "If you're looking for love, why automatically take away half of the people out there simply because of their gender?" That always made so much sense to me. I've never been in a relationship with another woman, but I wouldn't rule it out because why shut that door simply because some people consider it, well, radical, to go along with your song choice. :)

Speaking of, I love your October song-a-day posts.

[shoelacedreamer.livejournal.com]

I hear you. The following happened today:

Coworker JP was complaining about his scissors missing. Coworker LS said he could use hers. He said no because her scissors were purple and he wasn't going to use them.

LS: So you're not secure enough in your manhood to use purple scissors?

JP: No, I use Obama scissors.

Ls: Obama scissors?

JP & MP: Black.

Me: Harvard educated?

JP: What?

Me: I'm asking if you have Harvard educated scissors, as that seems just as relevant a character trait as race.

*silence*

Yay, my job. This is a typical conversation. One of my coworkers (MP) doesn't believe that bisexuality even exists. According to him you can only be one or the other. He's an idiot.

[shoelacedreamer.livejournal.com]

I think my argument with pansexuality is the whole "gender blind" thing. Because, no, I don't not recognize gender and I do think that it is important; I act differently around males than I do around females, my comfort level with each gender is different, etc. I'm just attracted to both. This is why labels confound me. I will most likely end up with a male, but I'm not discounting the alternative.

[shoelacedreamer.livejournal.com]

I suppose it's a human trait to want to give things identifiers, but it's too bad we can't just let some things be what they are. I agree with you and your college friend; it seems silly that we would shut ourselves off from the possibility of finding someone special. Having never been in any form of serious relationship, I don't feel like I have much ground to stand on when it ocmes to talking about this stuff, but I like to think that I'm open minded when it comes to possibilities. :)

I'm glad you're enjoying them! They force me to take a closer look at the music I own, which I like.

[soar38.livejournal.com]

OMG So ignorant.

[shoelacedreamer.livejournal.com]

YES, MY JOB IS AWESOME.

._.