They mean well but that doesn't excuse the Fail.

[debs]

Last week I received yet another wedding invitation addressed to "Blah Blah and Guest." *sigh* Obviously there's still some schooling that needs to be done.

So for those of you getting married, now or in the future, lemme drop a little knowledge on you care of tasty_bread who is my etiquette guru.

tasty_bread: Mastering envelope etiquette is, I'll admit, one of the biggest challenges of wedding planning, so I'm inclined to forgive in some cases, but "& Guest" is for people who are currently dating someone for under a year. Single people do not get "& Guest", they get carefully placed at tables with mutual friends of theirs, cool people who share their interests, and/or other singles to ease any possible social anxiety and possibly get them laid.

We all clear now? I won't be receiving any more of these awkward & shaming invitations? Great. Thanks.

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[dissonant-dream.livejournal.com]

UGH. *padasnuggles*

I love tasty_bread, she is made of win.

[shoelacedreamer.livejournal.com]

I completely forgot that I have to go to the shower for this wedding on Sunday. :( DOUBLE UGH. It's going to be filled with people I don't know/don't like, but since I'm not making it to the wedding I've got to put in some kind of effort. I hate being socially awkward at these things. *CLINGS*

She is one of the most brutally honest people I know, and I mean that in the best way. She doesn't take crap and I admire that about her.

[dissonant-dream.livejournal.com]

Oh no. I hope you're okay and can get through it. :( And the thing is, the going is the effort. The being there is the effort. You can't do more than that because that's already a huge deal and to not be awkward and out of place... *padasnugs* Well done you for going.

I saw someone at Stratford who I hadn't seen for a while and she was all excited because she's getting married and she said don't worry, you're invited, and I felt so bad because I immediately felt all this stress and she was just happy and I was just not. Ugh.

I admire it too. I wish I could be more like that.

[shoelacedreamer.livejournal.com]

I just looked at the invitation again last night and saw that I was supposed to RSVP, only they hadn't sent along an RSVP card but I was supposed to call and I just don't DO THAT, and now I have stress about whether I should just show up anyway or if I should just try to give Marissa her gift later or or or. :( Watch me fail. SUCK.

I feel your pain re: the Stratford Incident. I hate feeling guilty about my reactions to these things. *hugs*

Me, too. Mostly I wish I had a thicker skin and an ability to deal with life's little bullshit.

[pegm81484.livejournal.com]

Hi, so I was kind of lurking here, but I know I've seen your sn on a few of my other friend's or fandom's postings before... basically sorry if this is totally out of left field.

I know how you feel with the whole awkward and guest invite, but I also know that a lot of the times people do that because it makes me people feel more secure bringing some they know to a wedding rather than being forced to interact with people they don't know (this is true for non family weddings of course). For example, when my work friend got married, I brought my friend with me who is also female because other than one or two other co-workers I knew no one at the wedding.

I asked beforehand if it was okay that my "guest" was obviously not my date and she said of course that's why the offer was made. Sometimes I think people do to make things less awkward, but it just doesn't work out that way lol.